Embracing Compassionate Self Esteem
How we see ourselves is how we experience life. What story do you create about yourself? You are not alone if you experience low self-esteem because it is one of the most common underlying issues I see. Putting on self loathing glasses, everything looks bleak even if you may be outwardly successful. Shame and guilt can stop full connection with yourself and others. Through self compassion you will gain self esteem which will lead you to be more open and free. This is important because self compassion is not based on what you produce, professional titles, or how much you make.
Self compassion allows you to fully accept yourself no matter what mistakes you make and how imperfect you might think you are. It is the kind of loving care you would give to a friend but you learn to give it to yourself as well. You are allowed to relax and be yourself and use your energy to be the best version of yourself instead of using that energy to prevent any potential failure.
Some people feel that if they are not hard on themselves that they will lose the drive they need to succeed but studies have shown that self criticism actually drains motivation. Through self compassion we will show you how motivation actually increases.
I like to help people describe difficult emotions using poetry. Here is a poem I wrote to describe feelings of not being enough.
Enough is Enough
Bubbles of “you are not enough” pop into your spirit.
When did these bubbles first start fizzling in that elixir of “not enough?”
Abuse, rejection, illness, romance, motherhood? Was it one of these bubbles or were all of these married to form a relationship that lies outside of yourself?
Waiting for the world to validate what truly makes you fizz, crackle and pop is disheartening.
Because the world is good at rewarding dysfunctional behavior. It has painted a deafening street noise with blinding high risers that include working longer and harder, looking younger, being better than the next student or employee, not making mistakes, portraying the “perfect” life and on and on.
But enough is enough.
Allow yourself to take up space in your own painting. Allow yourself to hear what truly matters to you and see your own self expression and freedom.
Showing up for yourself in your own painting, making your own choices and how you respond.
Then you will take a step back and marvel at your painting and relish in “I am more than enough.”
Please reach out so we can find your true sense of self worth and a loving relationship with your true self. Letting go of self hatred and shame will have a transformational effect in all aspects of your life.
